Hello blogville,

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How are you doing? for those in the UK, hope you’re enjoying the heat wave, no complaining please, we complained about the summer arriving late and now it’s here with a vengeance! poor sun, it’s damn if it does, damn if it doesn’t 🙂

Anyway to my tori of the day, have you ever heard the statement “first impression counts”, I’ve heard it all my life but it’s never made as much sense to me as it did this day.  So bear with me, I’ll try and give you the gist as it happened.  There’s someone I’ve heard a lot about who would have been quite nice to meet, not that I’m particularly looking to meet them, you know, my stalking days are over but from having heard about them from a mutual friend for sometime, it seems we have a lot in common and would have plenty to talk about.

wedding guests

So hubby and I arrived at this party, we found a table and perched our lovely blessed assurance down, said hello to the other guests at the table, made the normal pleasantries, polite conversations like whispering things such as “has the bride arrived”? e.t.c, anyway so enters this couple, they were looking around as if they were looking for somewhere to seat, so there I go trying to catch eye contact with a big wide smile so I can let them know that there are a couple of empty seats at our table, I was looked at and then blanked in the same second, quietly embarrassed, I told myself that maybe they were looking for people they know, you know as you do sometimes or maybe I’m just trying to console myself.

it seems they couldn’t find whoever they were looking for or just realised that our table really did have empty seats, so on they came and sat down, since I’d already convinced myself that I was not blanked on purpose, I went back to shinning my not so Colgate teeth again just to welcome them into the newly formed party group, again, the stares that looked back at me were just as blank, you know the  “do I know you?” kinda, at this point, I well and truly parked my pearls in the garage.  Then I went through the different possibilities in my head, maybe the couple are not on good terms? I hadn’t finish this trail of thought when I saw them both laughing about something, anyway, I just sat gloom and nursed my bruised ego, I turned to the other couples at the table and continued our chit chat before the interruptions, I realised then that they had noticed what happened and wisely didn’t even look the couple’s way.

party seating

Now fast forward, one of the party host comes over to the table and introduced everyone to each other and you can’t imagine my disappointment when I realised who this person is, what I’ve heard about them and what I’ve just experienced do not match at all.  Once the person also realised who I was, then the niceties started, by then I have to tell you, I didn’t care anymore and even though the person did try to get my attention throughout the rest of the party, I just politely shut it down, I know I could have been forgiving and get over it but my ego was busy doing pity party with itself……. 🙂 Looking back now, I should have just let it go, but it pained me sha 🙂

So the moral of my tori really is “first impression really does count”, it costs nothing to be polite to people even if you do not know them, you never know what they might mean to you.

phew, off to get some iced drink now, what has been your experience of first impression either where you didn’t present quite well or someone didn’t present to you?

Bukky Apampa is a wife, a mother, a daughter and a sister 🙂 She loves God and loves to write, I am particularly passionate about relationships and I can be quite opinionated but always interested in other people’s views, I actually enjoy reading and listening to other’s views as it often challenges me that sometimes in this world, life is not always black and white, there are many shades of grey.

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