Thank you so much Simplymee, hope you had a great one with your family.
Thanks Simplymee. I do agree that one has to pick their battles, not every conflict is worth attention and one can let go for sake of peace so long you truly know in your heart that you're happy to let it go otherwise I'd say raise it.
You know even God honors faithfulness, you choose to honor your commtiment despite the state of finances and now reaping the reward, may your finances grow from strength to strength.
Oh I sure am following your blog, love it! thanks for stopping by here too.
I agree NIL, money is very important in relationships, now off to read the post. Thanks.
Risky business. I won't personally send an invite to my ex but if he gets to know about it and shows up, it's his business. I think being civil is important though
Personally,i'd submit that it possible to remain friends but there has to be a serious level of discipline for that to happen.Lots of the time,when people remain friends with their exes,it's because they've not had closure or are still in love with them or were not so much in love with them in the first place.However,to be on a safer side,it better if the exes stay in the past because some are just troubles waiting to happen.
I stumbled with this video the other day http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU1isJvsTCw
And I can say I almost totally agree with her, I'm too late for it... I'm not young anymore... but if I could be back in time I would do that...
when I saw the video I remembered this post hehe
anyway even if a women decides to have only a family and not go to work at the time, I don't think she is less important than a working women.... if a women really cares about giving her time to the society she can volunteer or teach her skills even if is for free, why everything need to be money?
well anyway it's not gonna change any soon.. we need to do what we think is the best ^^ ( I became to preachy lol )
Sis, bite your head off ke, you echo what my post is all about and even with practical examples, these are things I have mused on and on, it just seems inevitable that one has to give to the other, that is the reality I'm slowly coming into. Thank you for the very honest comment. much appreciated.
you never fail to make me laugh " a shinny wedding band isn’t going to automatically blind you from seeing it." Heehehehehe, thanks.
Ah, i'm with Ivy on this one. There are some standards that are just outright silly. I have a friend who still has "tall" on her list. How is someone's height going to make or mar your marriage? I mean, you see someone who is about 2 inches taller than you but is otherwise everything you want and you turn up your nose? I just don't get it.
There are some standards that you however should never compromise on just because you want to get married else, a life of misery awaits. If you absolutely can't stand it, a shinny wedding band isn't going to automatically blind you from seeing it. #2cents
wow, I love your take on this Unyime-Ivy King, beautifully explained. Thanks for your comment and for stopping by.
I have not read their story yet, to know what their peculiar circumstances are, but I agree it's not about age, but about maturity levels/levels of preparedness. I have a cousin who got married at 23, her hubby was 25, and 18 years later, they are still acting as if they met yesterday-their love is so strong and real. Their teenage kids jokingly say that, 'mummy still cries when dad has to travel.' However, theirs is not a standard because, I have also seen young marriages contracted by really young people, break up as well. If the 19 year old husband-to-be is mature enough and has an understanding that being a husband is more than sex and ability to father babies, that he is the primary provider for his home, and is expected to love his wife to the extent that he would willingly lay down his life for her, the priest and the leader of his home, why not? If I had a 19 year old, who wanted to marry, I would want to know if the proposed hubby had these qualities, and as a committed christian, I would want to know if he truly feared God, and trembles at His word, and most importantly, if he had authority figures/mentors which he respected and trusted. If all these are in place, which to me are the basics, why not?
Thanks Purplecious, you so get my point!
i used to want to get married young.... and I would have done... 19 is ok for me. I know alot of youths in my church and are mature spiritually and mentally. Nothing is easy for both young and old. As long as they have their convictions, prayer and focus they can do it with help of the church and family and GOD. Like I said, my friend 19 a troublesome boy turned born again decided to get married it was a shock to most people because he was such a troublesome boy. He found love in JESUS and in his wife and the church encouraged them. It was lovely. 4yr+ still going strong..
It was never an issue to get married young before and it should not be esp if these people are in CHRIST... WHY: am sure they are thinking about the spiritual aspect..
Anyway what the difference does it make when they turn older? that they will change their minds???
Well I don't really know what's true, just that the love with my boyfriend came slowly... we started to know each other and understand each other day by day, those thing made us closer each day... and that's why everyday day I love him more and appreciate him more even if sometimes we actually don't like each other hehe, I don't think I can never walk on the street and be oooh I love this guy and he will the love of my life forever and ever... if I don't know that person, I will feel strange... How can you know somebody by just a look.... however I don't think it takes long time to realize that you like somebody ( not talking about love yet lol)...
Like the movie before sunrise... even they were only one day together, they really spent that all day talking and knowing each other .slowly they started to like one another, but a love like the note book lest say ... I don't know .... seeing a girl walking on the street a few times and falling in love so madly that way is just strange to me... but I really can't tell for sure... that's just the way I feel
Thank you Seyi, that scenario will be a real shocker I agree!